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January 16, 2021

Tomatis Helps Relieve Emotional Stress

mother and child listening to tomatis in headphones for emotional wellness

The emotional toll of our responsibility to keep our children safe while trying to maintain a life, weigh heavily upon us whether they are typically developing or special needs children.

The difficulty to maintain balance between structure, education and fun for the development of our children has resulted in unprecedented levels of sadness & anxiety in our kids and ourselves. We are here to help you center and find a more peaceful place.

We know the ultimate solution is still several months away.

Most of us turn to music, as a key to assist our mood. The music we seek when we want to be energized changes when we want to relax. Music you choose to listen to varies when you exercise, clean house, work or study. When we want to sleep, you’re probably not going to turn on hard rock. Those emotion based decisions are not accidental. They’re a consequence of the qualities of the individual pieces of music.

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if you could listen to music that’s been specifically designed to have those positive emotional impacts at this time? With the Tomatis Method, I have the precise skills to control the elements of the music to assist people in gaining the balance they’re seeking. It’s possible for individuals and families to train together. It can also be a wonderful bonding experience for parents and children.

If you have questions, feel free to send an email or contact me here at Listen for Change.

Tomatis: “When Is Too Early, When Is Too Late?”

November 21, 2020

This is often the first question I’m asked as a Tomatis practitioner. The beautiful thing about our brains is that they’re open to change for much of our lives. The technical name for this is neuroplasticity. This means as long as you can learn, your brain can change. Tomatis is planned stimuli to create the change we’re looking for.

Mother and daughter listening to Tomatis Method

Babies & Toddlers:

Did you know that hearing through bone conduction begins in utero? The Tomatis Method incorporates bone conduction. With latest technology, we can now work with infants. Some infants are born irritable or dysregulated. They may have difficulty eating, eliminating or sleeping. I’ve used the Tomatis method in the NICU with premature, small, and sick babies. Later, babies may exhibit issues with:

eye contact,
babbling,
reaching
interest in their environment

The most common reason parents seek my services is that the child has issues with speech and language. Tomatis’ unique ability to connect the ear and brain, make it a logical choice at this time.

Attention difficulties are another common reason for seeking Tomatis. While high activity level is easy to recognize as you chase your child around, there are other kinds of attention issues where children just can’t focus even when sitting quietly.

Other young children have difficulty moving or crawling around their environment. All these things form the foundation for language, emotional connections, motor control, and learning.

Teens:

Being a teen is such a challenging time for anyone. Compounding this with the knowledge that you’re different than others can lead to bouts of sadness, opposition, anger or depression. It’s hard to form solid friendships when others don’t have the patience to hang around while you gather your thoughts and try to express them.

Adults:

Adults may have found they can’t maintain their attention. This can be in the conference room or with your spouse. As an aging adult, we notice a subtle shift in some of our faculties. There have been several books specifically highlighting the Tomatis Method to help you be the best you can be.

In this interview, Dr. Norman Doidge discusses the Tomatis method as useful in addressing difficulties that can hold back anyone. People are moving towards methods to better care for themselves. There are chapters in other books about using the Tomatis method during pregnancy for the betterment of the infant as well as the mother. We sometimes recommend that children and mothers train together for a special bonding experience. We have also found it of particular value to people who have had brain trauma and PTSD.

The Elderly:

Tomatis has a particular value for the aged. We don’t just hear through our ear, but we hear through our bones as well. For example, we’ve all had the experience of feeling drum beats through our bones.

Hearing is prone to deterioration with age, but our bone hearing remains more intact. Stimulating bone conduction helps your brain to rely more on that information, giving you the sensation that your hearing is better. We’ve all witnessed how music can “revive” people in their later years.

The Tomatis Method is not defined by an age group. For as long as you can learn, you can grow. Learning takes place in every stage of life. Your needs are addressed through individualized programs. Music lights up the brain, let it light up yours!

Center Yourself To Center Your Children

October 22, 2020

Caring for Your Children

Taking care of yourself is key to taking care of your children. We are being so bombarded by situations and information we don’t typically deal with. Most of us are making significant changes in our lifestyle accordingly. Our routines with the external world have been seriously disrupted. This includes children’s school, our work, and seeing our friends and family to name a few.

Many of us are finding this trying and disheartening. We have to continue to find ways to reinvent our normal and pass through this time.

One of your highest priorities should be taking care of yourself; not just acting “ok” but being “ok”. Our children are so connected to us that they sense any shift in our emotional state.

So how do we meet this challenge?

Consider:

carving out time for yourself
indulging in self care
exercising
getting outdoors
breathing
communicating with family and friends

On a more practical level,

create new routines
plan things in advance
have fun, be silly
take control of your life where you can

It’s easy to feel oppressed by all the changes we’re enduring, especially when there’s no end in sight. Throwing up your hands and leaving your fate to the wind is possibly the worst thing you can do. Work on yourself and your children in trying to seize this new and novel opportunity, and turn it into a positive experience and memories.

As a Tomatis practitioner, it resonates with me that Dr. Tomatis closely linked the mother’s voice to the wellbeing of the child. The ear is the first organ to develop in utero, and continues to be a source of comfort throughout the life cycle. I encourage mothers to do Tomatis training together with their child. It is both organizing and affirming of your relationship, and will give your child a stronger foundation from which he can change and grow.

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